Gems Concerning Introversion
In class the last few weeks I have heard quite a few gems concerning introversion. I thought it might be fun to share some and give you the things I think to myself in response. Because apparently Introversion is:
1.” I am not an introvert, because I’m not afraid of talking to anyone.” Wrong, wrong, wrong. Yes you can be shy if you are introvert, and yes you can be an introvert if you are shy. But you can also be an extrovert and shy or shy and an extrovert. They are two different aspects of personality. On a particularly bad day I felt tempted to respond (but didn’t), “It isn’t that I am afraid of talking to people, I just don’t like to.”
2. “I used to be an introvert, but I realized I needed to just suck it up and talk to people.” This classmate seems to believe that introversion is like a bad habit, something you can change with discipline.
3. ”I am only introverted about a few topics.” Seriously? This goes back to point one, shy does NOT equal introverted. Also introversion is not some random on and off switch. You can’t be introverted about a topic, you can be shy about a topic.
4. “I can’t be an introvert, they are too quiet and never talk.” Because if you are an introvert you never talk? This one bugs me a lot because it implies that introverts are anti-social. The reality of course is that often we don’t want to waste time on inane small talk. Also a lot of us aren’t actually that quiet once we are in a small group.
5. “Everyone seems to be an introvert, all they do is stare at their phones all day.” First off, staring at your phone has nothing to do with being introverted, being hyper-connected and possibly a little addicted to technology does. Secondly, don’t sit there, complain about not being an introvert and WHILE on your phone.
and the last one that just makes me develop a twitch over my left eye.
6.”Being an introvert must be a sad life, they never do anything!” I just…head desk, head desk, head desk. Glad to know my life is sad and boring.
So there you have gems from classmates concerning introversion.
What are some misconceptions you hear about introversion or extroversion that make you cringe a little?